Gemma aka Mutha.hood is celebrating the empowerment of motherhood with her deeply loved Strong Girls Club tee and other empowering and inclusive mama merch. She is a mother of 2 girls and is the founder of the #motheringlikeaboss community #motherlikenoonesjudging.
1. What 5 words describe your life?
hectic, happy, fuelled by chocolate
2. What's something that people won't already know about you?
I was delivered by Dr. Robert Winston off the TV, which is why I think I have a penchant for men with facial hair and strong eyebrows.
3. How many 'real' friends do you have VS your likers/followers/FB friends?
I think friends come in layers, rather than real vs social media friends.
I have my Mum and Claire, who is my Sis-riend (friend turned sister) and she's like the cherry on the cake of friendship, all of the other people who make me smile, feel loved, and make me feel good about myself are like the graduating layers of a giant rainbow cake.
There are people I speak to on Instagram DMS daily. I've never met them. Some might think it's odd to call them my friend, but we have so much contact and they send me photos of things they think I love so regularly that they've become more than just a follower. This is in part why I love Instagram so much more than Facebook. When I first joined FB it felt all very 'voyeur', with Instagram I only follow people I engage with and I get so many DMs from stories and comments on my posts that I think the same is true for those who follow me.
4. What makes you feel vulnerable?
I started losing my hair when I was 16. By the age of 21, the entire front area had disappeared. I do a really good job at coming across as confident, but it's not my natural state, it's almost a way of protecting myself. My lack of hair has had more of an impact on my self-esteem than I ever realised. I clock every spotlight in a room, to make sure I'm not standing underneath it. I avoid going underwater in the pool with my kids, I make sure I avoid windy walks by the seaside. I've felt vulnerable sharing all of this on Instagram, but the messages I've had from others who feel the same have reassured me that everyone feels vulnerable. That by sharing your vulnerabilities you help others to not be so consumed by their own Achilles Heel
5. Do you dare to dream or do you think dreams only come true for others?
I am a great believer in accountability. Life doesn't happen to you, you are in charge of it. I agree, that dreaming of marrying Chris Pratt is possibly a little out of my control, but when I see good things happen to others I know that they set the wheels in motion for that.
Yes, a lottery win is a dream, but the winner still went out and bought a ticket.
With anything I genuinely hate regret, so I'm all for at least trying to buy the ticket and seeing if your dream will come true.
6. What one piece of advice would you give other women about life?
Know your worth. You, your voice, your opinion, your entire being is worth something. When you go for a job, be confident in the skills you bring to the table when you start talking wages. If you're in a friendship or a relationship that doesn't leave you feeling amazing about yourself after the interaction; you are worth making a change. If you need help; physically or emotionally, you are worth getting that help. You are absolutely significant.
7. When did you last shave your pits/legs?
Today. I mean 'legs' is a bit generous - mid-calf is more appropriate since I'm wearing 7/8th jeans.