Clare Pooley is a writer, blogger and sober revolutionary. Author of The Sober Diaries and the blog Mummy was a Secret Drinker
1. What 5 words describe your life?
Sober, Chaotic, Connected, Loving, Creative
2. What's something that people won't already know about you?
When I was eleven years old, I sang in ABBA's backing group. If you listen to their song I have a Dream, you'll hear a choir of kids in the background. One of them was me. I was a massive ABBA fan, so it was like all my dreams coming true at once. Ever since then I've believed that miracles can happen!
3. How many 'real' friends do you have VS your likers/followers/FB friends?
I didn't do Instagram until very recently and rarely used Facebook. Everyone I knew on social media, I also knew in real life. But since I shared the dark side (and the comedy) of my life in my book - The Sober Diaries - I've 'met' the most amazing people all over the world. I discovered that when you make yourself vulnerable and tell your story, honestly, it makes people feel less alone and gives them the courage to face their demons too. So, I've had hundreds of people tell me their stories back, and I feel incredibly honored and blessed. I don't feel like my social media 'friends' are less valid than my 'real' ones - in some ways I know many of them much better!
4. What makes you feel vulnerable?
Exposing my imperfections. We all hide behind the veneer of perfection. We judge our insides by other people's outsides. For three nights before my book was published I didn't sleep. I was terrified about exposing my vulnerability to the world. It felt like walking into a party naked (which is the sort of thing I might actually have done back in the drinking days!) But I've learned that exposing our vulnerabilities is what makes us strong. And it makes other people stronger too.
5. Do you dare to dream or do you think dreams only come true for others?
I believe that the ONLY way to make stuff happen is to dream it and to dream big. I have a pin board by my bed, and I stick pictures on it of how I want my life to be. The kids call it 'Mummy's wish board' and they stick stuff on when I'm not looking (like a yellow Ferrari and a pink unicorn). The incredible thing is that more than half of the pictures on my board have come true already. I'm still waiting for George Clooney to show up...
6. What one piece of advice would you give other women about life?
On the other side of your maximum fear lie all the best things in life. I used to drink to deal with fear and anxiety. Now I know that if I'm scared it's usually because I'm about to do something important. Fear is your friend.
7. When did you last shave your pits/legs?
I do the pits and the legs frequently. but I have a proper 1970s bush. I'm holding out until it's back in fashion.