Stacey Heale is editor at Beneath the Weather, Newspaper columnist, Stage 4 cancer carer Spokesperson for Bowel Cancer UK AND Member of the Fuck Cancer Club
1. What 5 words describe your life
Currently, it’s full of total opposites… grateful, harrowing, beautiful, enlightening and unutterably sad
2. What's something that people won't already know about you?
That I was in the band Junior Senior for a very short amount of time when I was younger (before Don’t Stop the Beat came out, I was very gutted that everyone realised I couldn’t sing and couldn’t survive in the music industry with enthusiasm alone)
3. How many 'real' friends do you have VS your likers/followers/FB friends?
I’m very lucky to have the best people around me in real life. I have best friends from when I was in primary school but I also have best friends that I’ve just met in the past year. I’ve met some amazing people through social media who I class as friends as opposed to Internet strangers
4. What makes you feel vulnerable?
I feel vulnerable most days. It’s a feeling that I have actively avoided my whole life, even if it meant I had to use an enormous amount of bravado to bluster my way through the day. Since I began using social media and my website Beneath the Weather to speak honestly about Greg’s cancer diagnosis, I’ve found that the vulnerable space is nothing to be afraid of – in fact, I’ve found that it attracts like minded people and strengthens connections.
5. Do you dare to dream or do you think dreams only come true for others?
I’ve had the biggest wake up call of my life in the past 14 months. To be face to face with death dissolves any of the usual fears that would trap me into not pursuing my dreams. Now I not only dare to dream but I dare to make them all come true. I’m not afraid anymore because there is literally nothing to be afraid of. I now know as a fact that at the end of your life, you will be upset about the stuff you didn’t do and the things you didn’t say.
6. What one piece of advice would you give other women about life?
Keep other girls/women close, don’t turn them into rivals or the enemy. They will be your soul mates.
7. When did you last shave your pits/legs?
Nearly every day because I go swimming a lot as my meditation. Although I never really get my legs out; I bruise really easily and my legs always look like a 5 year olds. Maybe I should just feel vulnerable and do it?